Ok I read the article, very good! Everyone perceives the world differently. For some people a stimulus or event will not traumatize them, for others it will traumatize them to varying degrees. This is just how people are. Spinning down an icy hill in the winter, my car out of control, would not traumatize me, I choose to PERCEIVE it as a free rollercoaster ride, although this took a whole winter of practice to achieve. For others this would be quite traumatic.
So one cannot judge another by one's own trauma and perception, as perceptions are all different between us.
Everyone has different fears. I have faced some of my fears. Other of my fears seem to go undefined so it's harder to face them. At my uni it was required that every person, in every major, had to take a speech class. Everyone hated it at first. But it forced me to face my fear. I had toxic thinking and thought others would be making fun of me, but they didn't. They were all facing the same problem I was, and they knew it, so there was a little more empathy in this situation. More than a few people cried when they gave their speech.
Their first speech was just 1 minute on any topic you wanted. But the first time is the hardest. A handful of people cried to various degrees up there, not just girls either. A big guy got up to give his speech. He was tall, and he was wide, and he was on the football team. Well, I thought, I bet football gave him lots of confidence to be in front of crowds.
Not so! He paused, he was terrified, the tears started to flow just from the challenge. Then people did the surprising thing. They started shouting "It's ok! You can do it!" "You're doing fine!" "You're awesome!" He smiled, he cried a bit more, probably from relief. Then people started chanting his name, and tried to relate to him. "Jason! Jason! Jason!" "Go for that touchdown, you got this!" "You're normal, the first time is the hardest. Now carry that ball!"
It was amazing. I began to have faith in people again.
So he started his speech, halting, trying to maintain his composure. And when he was done, he got a standing ovation from the whole class.
At the end of the class almost everyone loved it and saw the value in it. Change is hard. And those first steps are the hardest. I know. Native Americans have a saying: "The longest journey begins with one step" and so does the healing, which can be a long hard journey indeed.