Just watched the first and came to comment and found there are more! (Yay) It is interesting hearing your guys' different experiences and how these interactions are a lot more than just abductions and genetic/reproductive testing which seem to happen a lot in particular with the grays.
I'll add that The Farsight Institute did a remote viewing project on the Darryl Anka well known for channeling the being we call Bashar and found it to be a legitimate contacting with a being reachable via Darryl. This Bashar has explained that the grays bioenginered emotions out of themselves (except one emotion they let remain to substitute for all the former ones.)
It went on to explain that the grays came to regret their genetic tampering and have since been endeavoring to return emotions to their genetic code, this being what their reproduction abduction stuff is largly about (the hybridizations being part of the project.) But equally important it was explained that the grays contact individuals before they incorporate to live a life-experience and get permission first, "Will you please participate in our attempt to fix ourselves?"
If this is the case it explains a few things such as their emotionless analytical approach to everything, including the abductions and the fear and trauma they cause. And if you think about it, the grays can't tell the abductee, "You gave us permission, you've just forgotten" because many would then immediately attempt to withdraw permission, resulting in a loss of a lot of time and energy invested to that point. However some of you may get some peace finding out about the standing of the situation, realizing your greater-self chose to help them even knowing it would also likely be difficult and at times possibly traumatizing.
This would seem to also explain why it seems to happen to specific individuals throughout their lifespan and they seem selective and careful who to follow instead of just random abductions. If you want more information I can only direct you to Bashar and some of the videos on youtube as I don't remember the specific one where 'it' related the gray's story.